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Registered Clinical Counsellor

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My argument here is that, like happiness, you’re just not able to set out and hunt down that ONE job that, for you, soars above all others.

“Did you notice that happiness happens less the more often you stop to find where it’s been hiding?”

- HeyRosetta!, “The Simplest Thing”

Stop dreaming! And get the dream job of your dreams. But not in your dreams – in your real life! The dream job of your future can become a dream reality NOW! Get out of your dreams, get into your dream career! Live your dream!

Dream dream dream! Why must it all be so dreamy? Is this the collective societal message that we really want to convey to desperate job seekers? Is it a bad idea to equate the terms “dream job” and “ideal job?” Why are we so fixated on career perfection?

I’m generally a large fan of nuance. One of the benefits for me of going through a counselling psychology degree is the amount of self-reflection that’s encouraged. Accordingly, I’ve discovered through my own process self-reflection that I often find the most interest in details – meanings, subtleties, themes, etc. Naturally, semantics can be a soapbox I find myself standing on from time to time.

So, just what is meant by the phrase “dream job?”

In a society consumed more by a “live to work” than a “work to live” mentality, it’s an important question. If you had asked me as a child what I wanted to be when I grew up, you’d get some pretty funny answers. Going through adolescence didn’t clear anything up, either.

Generally I’m inclined to believe that the phrase ‘dream job’ was invented and popularized by ‘career training programs’ looking to capitalize on people’s dissatisfactions and insecurities in their current careers. You know the ones I’m talking about. “You’re only 8 months and thousands of dollars away from an exciting new career as a… *cue list of dozens of career titles scrolling across the screen faster than is possible to read* !! Call today to take the first step toward your new dream career!”

Yikes. Why must these kinds of ads exist? Perhaps more importantly, what is the underlying reason that ad campaigns like this seem to work? Don’t even get me started on stuff like this.

Picture of Victor Frankl

Someone who may be able to shed some light on this issue, indirectly, is the existentialist, Nazi prison camp surviror, and founder of logotherapy: Viktor E. Frankl. In his book, “Man’s Search For Meaning,” Frankl tells the terrible story of his experiences in prison camps and how these experiences helped to shape his unique theory of psychotherapy. He discusses the question: What is the meaning of life? Is it the pursuit of happiness?

No, says Frankl. The more vigorously we pursue happiness, the more effectively it eludes us. True happiness is actually abyproduct. It occurs as a result of meaningful events or activities in our lives. We can’t set out and decide to become happier. All we can really do is decide to live authentically and meaningfully, and happiness should inevitably result.

As I’ve discussed before, careers are often inextricably linked to happiness and overall wellness. My argument here is that, like happiness, you’re just not able to set out and hunt down that ONE job that, for you, soars above all others. That ONE job for which you wake up in the morning excited to go to work. That ONE job that never feels like work, regardless of the number of hours you put in. I believe that whatever your efforts, trying to find that job, for those reasons, is a venture that is doomed to failure from the start.

Why, you ask?

  • If you are constantly seeking the ‘perfect job,’ you will never fully appreciate the one you have.

  • There’s no way of knowing what’s going to happen in the future that might change your mind. Not 10 minutes from now and definitely not 10 years from now.

  • There is no “dream job” waiting for you at the end of the employment rainbow. Nothing will fall in your lap. Doing nothing means nothing comes of it.

  • Your ‘dream job’ today might not be so dreamy a month, a year, 10 years from now.

  • And most importantly, you are likely to have MANY jobs over the course of your life that you really like doing. Maybe you even LOVE doing them, if you stop to think about it.

Let’s abandon the notion of the dream job. Instead, we’ll be quite happy to look forward to having ‘the right job’ at ‘the right time’ for the ‘right reasons.’

SFU Health and Counselling Services
Registered Clinical Counsellor
David Lindskoog is a Registered Clinical Counsellor at Health & Counselling who used to work as a Career Advisor with Career Services. David is passionate about suicide prevention, social justice, career and professional development concerns, and the use of role-playing games in therapy. Check out his group: Dungeons & Worry Dragons. While you're here, check out Dave's Diary! It is an ongoing series of journal entries touching on various aspects related to careers and well-being. Want to hear Dave's thoughts on a particular topic?  Send him an email, and he'll do his best to include it in his next post!  
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Oct 22, 2010

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